The funeral service
Allan Drew Funerals have put together an extensive range of information that will help answer some of your questions.
In this section you will find information on all about the funeral service.
What factors do I need to consider when selecting the day and time of the funeral service?
You should allow enough time for out-of-town guests to travel to attend the service.
If the death has been referred to the Coroner, it may be necessary to factor in their requirements before a funeral can take place. Allan Drew Funerals will liaise with the Coroner and keep you informed.
Can funeral services be held anywhere?
Almost anywhere. The most common sites for holding funerals are at a church or our beautiful chapel. Another option is to hold the entire ceremony as a graveside service.
A funeral service can even be held at a family residence.
May I participate in a funeral service?
Yes. Allan Drew Funerals encourages families to participate in a funeral service.
You can form a guard of honour or deliver a eulogy. You can decorate the coffin or you can release doves or butterflies at the end of the service. Participating in a funeral allows you to express your feelings more meaningfully.
Should children attend a funeral, family gathering or 'wake'?
The death of a family member can be a very confusing and bewildering experience for children.
Attendance at a funeral may be helpful for a child to realise the finality of death, and also allows the child to share in the emotional experience with the family. However, you should not insist that they attend.
Let the children express sorrow in their own way and do not force ideas on them, such as grieving or funeral attendance. Talk with younger children. If they want to attend the funeral, prepare them for the experience and answer any questions they may have.
We’ve found that children want to be involved - not left out. Being part of the gathering means they are surrounded by the care and support of family members.
Should I request donations to a charity rather than flowers?
This is entirely up to you. Even if the family doesn’t request flowers some people will still feel more comfortable sending them.
What should I include when writing a eulogy?
As a helpful guide, the following may be of assistance in preparing a eulogy:
- When and where was the deceased born
- Nicknames and/or names known to others
- Parents names - where they met and married
- Brothers and Sisters
- Early childhood - localities and interests
- Schools attended, awards gained
- Academic or trade qualifications and achievements
- Some interesting items about childhood days
- Details of any war or military service if appropriate
- Details of marriages, divorces, children, significant relationships
- Details of grandchildren/great grandchildren
- Details of any Club memberships, positions held
- Details of sporting achievements
- Details of any hobbies or interests, travel, crafts etc.
- Details of historical significance
- Preferences, likes and dislikes
- Details of activities e.g. music, theatre etc.
- Any special stories, sayings, qualities that are significant to others
- Special readings, music or poetry to be included if you wish.